A NOTE FROM CHRISTINA:
Spring has sprung here in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada.
The streets are full of that beautiful shade of green that only newly budded leaves possess.
And it's snowing pink and white petals from the cherry tree blossoms. The only downside is allergies, but at least I can appreciate the beauty between sneezes.
Victoria in Bloom
We're gearing up for a busy May, with two mastermind retreats and the Fundamentals of Interactive-Visuals. Plus, our new local Office Manager is in the process of being selected ... so some slight construction, new desk, computer, etc are being added to our digs.
After years of working primarily with an online team, I'm really looking forward to having a right hand person (right there at my right hand literally!) to strategize and fulfill with. With Tamsyn (marketing and sales) joining us in-person after that. Plus I'll be moving my personal space two doors down in the same building - splitting home and work. Giving me more creation space (can finally spread out my painting supplies and pull out my easel).
Last issue I wrote the article on my Outer Work Model for building your 50-300K process business. This article I want to focus on Inner Work ... the other necessary ingredient to build your successful process practice. Here's to your success!
Yours in SHIFTing IT,
The SHIFT-IT Coach
and Interactive-Visuals Mentor
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Developing one's craft is only part of the puzzle in having a successful solopreneur practice or small business --- to understand and successfully implement solid business strategies are another. Previously my 'Outer Work' model to create and maintain (or revamp) a venture in the 50-300K range has only been available to students in our longer-term masterminds. Now this practical and much needed info is offered, for the first time ever, in a condensed online format. Topics include: inspiration, identity & brand, structures & banking, offerings and proper sales funnel creation, sales & marketing (including social media), pricing and effective collection policies, tech and administrative support (team building), bookkeeping & accounting, and partnering and joint ventures. And, the positive mindset and resilience that underscores it all.
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INNER WORK FOR THOSE #@!* DAYS
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One of the things we do here at SHIFT-IT Coach, Inc. is help people define and manifest their professional and personal goals. While this work is very rewarding overall, anybody who tells you that going for your goals is all sugar and spice and everything nice, is ... well, full of #@!* (insert expletive of your choice).
The manifestation process can be bumpy, and that is actually as it should be. Nobody, in the process of manifesting what they want, has an entirely bump free trip.
Yes, there will be fabulous days. And yes, there will be unfabulous days. The ability to define and manifest what you want (be it professional or personal) is a journey ... one where the ability to self soothe serves well.
Last issue I outlined my Outer Work Model (the practical stages and steps one needs to employ to build a successful process practice. However Outer Work is only a part of the success equation --- doing your Inner Work is as, if not even more, important. You must keep an even inner keel in order to keep putting one foot in front of the other. The development of more emotional mastery is key.
For those #@!* days here are some soothing concepts to consider (note: if it's a really, really bad day ... then these may piss you off, so come back to them when your vibe settles a bit).
Feel Your Feelings:
If you are having a hard day, the first thing to do is to just allow yourself to be where you are and feel your authentic feelings. If you fight them or make them wrong, you just exasperate things. If you stuff them, there can be negative side effects (i.e. they come out in a big BLAH later or you run the risk of somatic illness).
So, if you are frustrated ... be frustrated. If you are mad ... be mad. If you are sad ... be sad. If you are all of those things and more, well ... be all of those things and more.
Human beings have feelings and some of them are negative and complicated ... and that is totally ok and as it should be!
Some of the coaching that I personally do (the more meta-physical and Law of Attraction oriented) can be classified as spiritual. I love spiritual/meta-physical circles, however sometimes there is a tendency to only be comfortable with some emotions --- the 'positive' ones; and to negate the other ones.
Human beings have a RANGE of emotions and they all serve us. Yes, its not helpful to forever stew in the negative range. You do want to get off of the negative, eventually, onto something that ultimately serves you (and those around you) better. But if you move off of it too soon, you run the risk of 'spiritual bypass' ... paving over things in an inauthentic or incongruent way. This will not serve in the long run as you can end up living an inauthentic and incongruent life. Not something healthy for those of us who aim to live a creatively expressed life.
Work Your Layers:
When you are having a tough day, it can be very difficult to instantly shift to a better feeling state, even if you want to. That is why the first mode of approach is to feel your feelings. When we give ourselves the permission to just feel our feelings, and be who we are being in that moment, a softening eventually occurs and we're able to connect to the next layer of feeling that lies beyond the original one. A slightly softer one. Often under the anger or frustration is sadness or other tender emotions (disappointment, yearning, despair).
In The THEO Accelerator (mastermind that I co-lead with Sheila & Marcus Gillette and THEO), this forgiveness letter process was brought forward by one of the participants as a resource for working through the layers of feelings that can often accompany a tough time in life. Its great (even though I have reservations about 'forgiveness' as a catch all concept to aspire to, but I'll save that for another article). This process is a helpful way to methodically work your way through your layered emotions to get to a softer, better feeling place ... a SHIFT. If one wants to call that forgiveness, then so be it.
Use It To More Clearly Define What You Do Want:
When your feelings have reached a softer place, you can now use the original #@!* for a better purpose. You can use it to define what you DO want and put your focus on that.
My terminology for this is "FLIP IT, FLIP IT GOOD" (for the Devo fans in the room). The previous blog posts below elaborate further on this helpful concept (and include links to visual tools and other resources to help you APPLY this useful technique to your own circumstances).
The Positive Role of Angst & Discomfort
Soften the Sting of Betrayal
Turn Crap to Gold
Some Things Take Time ... And That's Ok:
Moving up the Vibrational scale is important, but don't take it too far. Some things cannot be rushed. They have their own timing. Big milestones like ailing loved ones, health challenges, changing financial or career trajectories, relationship transformations and other big changes (heck, even the process of becoming a decent visual practitioner) ... well, they have their own timing.
Try to be patient with the time it takes for them to unfold. And try also to recognize the progress you HAVE made, rather than focusing on what still needs to occur.
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IN THIS ISSUE:
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>>Featured Article: Inner Work For Those #@!* Days
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